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I was walking along the street with my boyfriend when suddenly someone shouted out of the car and threw water over us out the window.
I was walking back from Friddoedd site on thursday night after I’d been out skating.. It’s something I do that not a lot of girls do, but it keeps me in good shape and I enjoy it. Naturally, I was dressed in some old clothes and shoes that I don’t mind getting messy to spare my usual wardrobe..
As I was walking past the junction by Morrisons, a group of youths were loitering around and started shouting abuse at me calling me ‘Babe’, telling me I ‘Looked like a bloke’ and asking me ‘How my willy was’.. Just because I was wearing some old clothes and trying to quietly make my way home doesn’t make me any less of a woman! I feel like I should be able to enjoy my hobbies and fitness in peace without that kind of abuse being hurled at me..
Whilst walking up Glanrafon hill this evening (at around 11pm) I was stopped and surrounded by a group of men who seemed very intoxicated. They began to shout things at me like “fatty”, “fat b****”, and “fat f***”. One individual stopped directly in front of me, put his hand in my face and began to light his lighter in front of my eyes/near my fringe and face. I walked away rapidly to them continually shouting things at me.
As I was walking up the road towards the Students Union a 50 odd year old man started following me and trying to talk to me. I knew this wasn’t simply friendly because this same man had followed me twice before, talking at me, making me very uncomfortable, and making innapproperiate remarks at me about my body, asking me about my boyfriend, asking me innapproperiate things to do with my sex life. This time I blanked him completely. I didn’t care if it was rude, this man scared me and made me very uncomfortable. I just kept my earphones in, stared at the ground and blanked him. He continued to follow me and talk at me untill I got into a building. This was around 2pm in the afternoon on a busy street.
I was walking home from my boyfriend’s house, towards the centre of town, alone. It was about half 12 in the morning and we’d just had an argument so I wasn’t in the happiest of moods.
However just as I got past the round-about with Matalan and DW on, this car with four lads in it drove towards me and stopped in the middle of the road, all four staring at me, not saying anything, just staring. So I, obviously, glanced at them but just carried on walking keeping my head down trying to ignore them. However as I walked past the car, they started reversing in at the same pace of me walking, this carried on for about five minutes, however they still didn’t say anything, staring at me. So terrified I started to walk quicker.
After a while they carried on to turn around at the round-about, luckily I live off Caernarfon road, so I quickly walked up my road and practically ran into my house. Luckily I got into my house just before they reached where I was on Caernarfon road, because I know they turned around to carry on following me.
I was standing inside near the entrance to the lift and kissed a boy for a few seconds when a man in a football top comes through the door and slightly pushes us out of the way saying: “That’s pretty disgusting you know guys.” He quickly walks up the stairs and we are left thinking what we have done wrong?
I had some problems outside when some people pointed at me and shouting ‘Look! It’s a boy! Look! a He-She!’
So I decided to just go home.
My friend experienced the following situation, but preferred to remain anonymous, so I am posting the story on her behalf as I believe it is important to share.
My friend was walking to the train station where she was approached by a man she did not know. Since it was raining heavily, she consented to sharing her umbrella with him. He tried to hold her hand as they walked so she told him not to do that to which he complied. She tried to strike up a conversation with him about university and what course he studied, but he turned the conversation to ask whether she had a boyfriend or not. She told him she did and that he would be waiting for her on the train and tried to steer the conversation back to university and it continued normally for a while. He tried to offer to hold her suitcase for her but she told him not to, but as he had already reached for it, they stopped walking. He then grabbed her hand and her shoulder and turned her towards him in an attempt to kiss her. She shoved him away forcefully, took her umbrella and told him “you have to leave now”.
He immediately complied and walked across the street to enter Nice ‘n’ Naughty.
She recounted the story to me after 3 months of the occurrence, and added that it didn’t even occur to her that it was something that needed to be further reported for the safety of other women, as even though she was infuriated and ready for a fight as soon as it happened, she felt totally in control of the situation and therefore didn’t dwell on it for too long afterwards.